There’s a difference between looking someone in the eyes and looking into someone’s eyes. The latter is intense and beautiful. It can be done with everyone we come across from gas station attendants to our loved ones, which includes our pets, and even with ourselves in the mirror.
This won’t be about the importance of eye contact in general or how to make eye contact in social situations if it makes you uncomfortable. For that kind of information, you can read this article.
I just want to explain the difference between normal eye contact and the deep, spiritual kind that forms an immediate bond. The kind that few people experience with regularity, but when they do, they remember it.
You’ve heard the saying, “The eyes are the window of the soul,” but how often do you actually look deeply into someone’s eyes?
The way to do this is simply by intending it. You make a conscious effort to look into that person. It’s as if you’re saying, “Hi, I see you there, I mean I really see you there, and I recognize you as a fellow human, a fellow consciousness.” Or something like that – it can’t be adequately put into words.
I almost never used to look at people in this way and still have to remind myself constantly to do so. Actually, “eye contact” is on a list of reminders I read each morning to help me remember. Hopefully it will soon become habitual.
My default mode, and I suspect most others’, is to look at people’s eyes instead of into them. The difference is tangible for you and the other person. When someone looks into your eyes, you can feel it. You feel an immediate and often strange bond with the person. You are two consciousnesses who, for a brief moment, and on a deep, unconscious level, understand each other.
Some natural results of deep eye contact are that people view you more favorably, you view them more favorably, and the interaction, no matter how short and terse, will be more memorable. It also helps with remembering names, which is something I have struggled with in the past.
We’re all eternal consciousnesses walking around this sphere of a planet in our little piles of meat. We can see past it all, we can see and feel this truth if we will just look into each other.