When a loved one dies, a common sentiment is: “I miss him so much, I wish I could just see him one more time, have one more conversation, one more hug.”
Well the trick is, before you see your loved one next, imagine that meeting is your wish fulfilled. That he has died, but you’re getting to see him one more time.
Would that change how you feel about the interaction, and how you behave? Would the person feel an extra depth of your love for him? Would any recent arguments or resentments just vaporize immediately?
Of course if you actually went fully into that state of consciousness as if he had died and you’re able to see him again, you’d cry tears of joy and would behave very strangely from the other person’s perspective. So the main point is to take that depth of gratitude into the interaction, not necessarily all the rest of it.
Feel that deep sense of love and gratitude for the privilege of having that bonus interaction with your loved one.
The same idea can be used for any activities you love. Imagine for some reason you were prevented from ever being able to do that thing you love again. But now you have one more chance to do it.
Give it a shot, let me know how it goes.
What do you think?